🌿Boundaries Are Love in Disguise -Living the Healing
- Upan Lifton
- Jun 25
- 2 min read
Heart of Healing Series: Living the Healing
Redefining What It Means to Care.
“The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who benefited from you not having any.”
What if your ‘no’ is holy?
What if your limit is not a wall - but a doorway back to self-respect?
For many of us, especially those wired for empathy, boundaries can feel like rejection. We were taught to accommodate, to avoid conflict, to make others comfortable even when we were falling apart inside.
But here’s the truth:
Boundaries are not betrayals. They are the language of self-trust.
🤍 Why Boundaries Feel So Unnatural
You might’ve learned that love means sacrifice.
That being "good" means being agreeable.
That your needs come second - or not at all.
So of course boundaries feel scary.
They go against the script. They disrupt the familiar dance of over-giving and quiet resentment.
But here’s what we forget:
Unspoken pain eventually becomes distance. Boundaries are what prevent the silent build-up of anger, burnout, and disconnection.
🌱 A Shift in Perspective
Boundaries aren't about keeping others out - they're about keeping you in.
They're not punishment - they’re clarity.
They're not cold - they're sacred.
A clear boundary says: “I love you. And I also love me.”
🛠 Try This: Soft Boundary Practice
Pause Before Saying Yes
If you’re unsure—don’t default to yes. Say, “Let me check and get back to you.”
Use Gentle But Firm Language
“That doesn’t work for me.”“I’m not available for that right now.”“I need to rest.”
Honor the Discomfort
Your nervous system may tremble a bit. That’s okay. Boundaries feel unfamiliar before they feel empowering.
Notice What Changes
With each honest no, space opens. You begin to see who honors your truth, and who only loved your compliance.
💬 Journal Prompts for Healing Boundaries
When have I felt drained or resentful lately?
What need might be hidden underneath that feeling?
What’s one small boundary I can try this week?
💚 Final Words
There’s nothing unkind about honoring your capacity.
There’s nothing selfish about protecting your peace.
There’s nothing cold about saying, “I matter, too.”
In truth, the most loving relationships are built not on sacrifice... but on sovereignty. Your boundaries are not blocks to love.
They are love, in disguise.
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